"Only The Ones We Love" is a song by British singer-songwriter Tanita Tikaram, which was released in 1991 as the lead single from her third studio album ''

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''. It was written by Tikaram, and produced by Tikaram, Peter van Hooke and Rod Argent.

Background

Speaking of the song's message, Tikaram told

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for the ''

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'' in 1991: "I made a deliberate effort last year to spend time with my family and the song is about that. I used to have this desire to be by myself all the time. You need to be reflected in the people you care for and who love you. I used to think there was this ideal place where you'd find you belonged. But as I get older I realise that place already exists in the people who care about you. And that's what the song is about." The song features backing vocals by Jennifer Warnes. Tikaram revealed to ''

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'' in 1991: "She came to a gig in Los Angeles. She said, 'If you ever need anyone to sing on your albums, I'll do it.' This is like God talking. She's my idea of the perfect singer."

Critical reception

Upon its release, ''

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'' commented, "Call it precocious, call it what you want, it remains an amazing fact that such a young girl plays such mature music." Simon Lloyd of the ''

'' described it as "a tad snappier" than Tikaram's previous releases, but added that it "retains the earthiness and soul that has become her trademark". Stuart Bailie of ''

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'' considered it to be a "startling return" for Tikaram, on which she "gets down to the guts of a plain, sad song". He added, "Getting so simple, so involved is a big achievement for this artist, helped with a swathe of violins, which give it some muted, Latino passion – not a terrific distance away from Al Martino's swoonsome ' Blue Spanish Eyes'." Steve Stewart of '' Aberdeen Press and Journal'' gave the single three stars and wrote, "Tikaram seems to be trying to adopt the female Leonard Cohen tag. But despite the pleasant orchestration, the lyrical quality of her debut album ''

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'' is missing." Leo Finlay of '' Sounds'' noted the song was "thoroughly innocuous" and "lavishly produced as ever", with Tikaram's voice having "a more mature feel". He concluded the song would "keep many a civil servant happy". Peter Stanton of ''

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'' called it "just another mournful ditty which should be played in a room with no dangerous objects". Paul Lester of ''

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'' was critical of the song, stating it meant "having to suffer this dreadful navel-scrutinising woman witter on about her private life again" and also questioning "how anyone can convey emotional torment with such a feeble-hearted lack of conviction". In the US, ''

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'' praised Tikaram's "vulnerable delivery" and commented, "Tikaram's sensitive, world-weary voice takes center stage here and is backed by a hauntingly angelic chorus, which serves to heighten the song's somber mood." In a review of ''Everybody's Angel'', Helen A.S. Popkin of the ''

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'' wrote, "Tikaram sings about the matters of living, transcending the material world by illustrating her songs with the grace of emotion. "Only the Ones We Love" borders on the metaphysical, equating self-worth with those which we care for." In a retrospective review of the album, Tom Demalon of

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described the song as "lovely" and Tikaram's vocals as "simply gorgeous".

Track listing

;7" and cassette single #"Only the Ones We Love" - 2:47 #"Me in Mind" - 3:23 ;12" single #"Only the Ones We Love" - 2:47 #"Me in Mind" - 3:23 #"Mud in Any Water" - 3:44 ;CD single #"Only the Ones We Love" - 2:47 #"Me in Mind" - 3:23 #"Mud in Any Water" - 3:44 #"Cathedral Song" (Instrumental) - 2:52 ;CD single (US promo) #"Only the Ones We Love" (Album Version) - 2:50

Personnel

* Tanita Tikaram - vocals * Jennifer Warnes - harmony vocals * Rod Argent - piano * Mark Creswell - guitar * The String Orchestra - string section * David Hayes - bass * Nick France - drums Production * Tanita Tikaram - producer * Peter van Hooke, Rod Argent - producers, mixing * Simon Hurrell - engineer, mixing Other * Bill Smith Studio - design * Deborah Feingold - photography

Charts

References

{{Authority control 1991 songs 1991 singles Tanita Tikaram songs Songs written by Tanita Tikaram Song recordings produced by Rod Argent East West Records singles