Lenore Skenazy () is president o
Let Grow a non-profit promoting childhood independence and resilience, and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement. She is also a speaker, blogger, syndicated columnist, author, and
reality show
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host. A mother who lives in the Queens borough of New York City, her controversial decision to let her then-9-year-old son take the
New York City Subway
The New York City Subway is a rapid transit system owned by the government of New York City and leased to the New York City Transit Authority, an affiliate agency of the state-run Metropolitan Transportation Authority (MTA). Opened on October 2 ...
home alone became a national story and prompted massive media attention. She was dubbed,
America's Worst Mom" In response, Skenazy founded the book and blog
"Free-Range Kids," with the aim of "fighting the belief that our children are in constant danger from creeps, kidnapping, germs, grades, flashers, frustration, failure, baby snatchers, bugs, bullies, men, sleepovers and/or the perils of a non-organic grape." Let Grow, co-founded in 2018 with
Daniel Shuchman
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, Dr.
Peter Gray and Prof.
Jonathan Haidt, continues the quest to make it "easy, normal and legal" to give kids back some old-fashioned independence of thought and deed. Skenazy is Jewish with roots in
Çanakkale,
Turkey.
Career
Skenazy is a 1981 graduate of
Yale University. She got her master's degree from Columbia in 1983.
Skenazy spent fourteen years as a columnist for the ''
New York Daily News
The New York ''Daily News'', officially titled the ''Daily News'', is an American newspaper based in Jersey City, NJ. It was founded in 1919 by Joseph Medill Patterson as the ''Illustrated Daily News''. It was the first U.S. daily printed in ta ...
'', but was fired in December 2006. She moved to ''
The New York Sun'' and wrote there until it shut down in 2008. Skenazy also wrote and reported for
NPR, as well as CNBC, and was featured in the Bravo series ''
Tabloid Wars
''Tabloid Wars'' is an American reality television series which premiered on July 24, 2006, on the Bravo cable network. Filmed in mid-2005, the show chronicles the working lives of journalists from the ''New York Daily News''.
Featured writers an ...
''.
Skenazy's column in ''
The New York Sun'', "Why I Let My 9-Year-Old Ride the Subway Alone," described her making the controversial decision to let her son take the
New York City Subway
The New York City Subway is a rapid transit system owned by the government of New York City and leased to the New York City Transit Authority, an affiliate agency of the state-run Metropolitan Transportation Authority (MTA). Opened on October 2 ...
home alone, which was completed without incident. The piece resulted in a flood of reactions ranging from accusations of child abuse to fond memories of first-time subway trips and childhood freedom. The story was covered on ''
The Today Show'',
Fox News,
NPR, and
MSNBC two days after the column appeared, later becoming worldwide news and being featured on ''
Penn & Teller: Bullshit!'', The View, Nightline, Good Morning America, CBS News, NBC Nightly News, Anderson Cooper, Dr. Phil, Nancy Grace, The BBC, the CBC, and ABC in Australia. In 2015, she was profiled in ''The New Yorker'' and ''The New York Times''. The popularity of Skenazy's blog led to the creation of the book, ''Free-Range Kids'', published in 2009 by
John Wiley & Sons.
On the blog, Skenazy proposed May 22, 2010, as the first "Take Our Children to the Park & Leave Them There Day"—a day for children to learn how to play by themselves without constant supervision. It has been celebrated every year since. Skenazy also became the host of the reality television show ''
World's Worst Mom'' on Discovery Life. The 13-episode series features Skenazy visiting extremely anxious parents, including the mother of a 10-year-old who still spoon-fed him, the mother of an 8-year-old who bought him a skateboard but only let him "ride" it on the grass, and the mother of a 13-year-old who still took him into the ladies' room.
With humor, kindness, and some firmness, Skenazy separated the parents from their children and had the children do some tasks on their own, such as running an errand, or learning, at age 10, how to ride a bicycle. In the end, 12 of the 13 couples relaxed so much that they became "Free-Range Parents" themselves. Now Skenazy lectures around the world, including speeches at Microsoft, DreamWorks, Audi, The Yale Child Study Center, Boston Children's Hospital, Wellesley, the Sydney Opera House, and schools and conferences.
At Let Grow, Skenazy's goal is to renormalize children doing things on their own. She says this is easiest when whole groups "Let go and Let Grow" together, so the adults do not feel foolish or fearful taking their eyes off their kids. Let Grow's two school initiatives to increase kids' (and parents') confidence are:
The Let Grow Project€”Teachers tell the children to go home and ask their parents if they can do one thing on their own that they have not done yet—walk the dog, run an errand, play outside. This little push breaks the ice of fear. When the kids come back, flush with independence, anxiety is replaced by a flood of joy. The project changes parents as much as the kids.
The Let Grow Play Club€”This is Dr. Peter Gray's initiative: Schools stay open before or after school for free play. Adults are on hand for emergencies, but otherwise do not intervene. Children of all ages playing together make up their own games, solve their own problems, learning the social-emotional skills (focus, empathy, compromise) they do not get in the classroom.
Th
PBS NewsHour profiledthese initiatives in 2018, as di
The Wall Street Journalan
NPR.
In 2018, Utah became the first state in the U.S. to pass th
Free-Range Parenting bill assuring parents that they can give their children some independence without this being mistaken for neglect. Several states are considering similar bills as of 2019.
Bibliography
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* ''Who’s the Blonde that Married What’s-His-Name: The Ultimate Tip of the Tongue Test of Everything You Know You Know…But Can’t Remember Right Now'' (
Penguin Books, June 2009)
* "The Dysfunctional Family Christmas Songbook" (Broadway Books, 2004), with co-author John Boswell.
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*Why Parents are More Paranoid than Ever, NY Post, March 31, 2018
References
External links
Lenore Skenazy Website & Blog Lenore Skenazy archive, New York SunLenore Skenazy - Reason.com
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Year of birth missing (living people)
Living people
American women columnists
New York Daily News people
The New York Sun people
Yale University alumni
20th-century American journalists
20th-century American women writers
21st-century American journalists
21st-century American women writers
American people of Sephardic-Jewish descent
Jewish American writers