Emily Post ( Price; October 27, 1872 – September 25, 1960) was an American author, novelist, and socialite famous for writing about
etiquette
Etiquette ( /ˈɛtikɛt, -kɪt/) can be defined as a set of norms of personal behavior in polite society, usually occurring in the form of an ethical code of the expected and accepted social behaviors that accord with the conventions and ...
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Early life and education
Post was born Emily Bruce Price in
Baltimore
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,
Maryland
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, possibly in October 1872.
The precise date is unknown.
Her father was the architect
Bruce Price
Bruce Price (December 12, 1845 – May 29, 1903) was an American architect and an innovator in the Shingle style architecture, Shingle Style. The stark geometry and compact massing of his cottages in Tuxedo Park, New York, influenced Modern ...
, famed for designing luxury communities. Her mother Josephine (Lee) Price of
Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania
Wilkes-Barre ( , alternatively or ) is a city in Luzerne County, Pennsylvania, United States, and its county seat. Located at the center of the Wyoming Valley in Northeastern Pennsylvania, it had a population of 44,328 in the 2020 census. It ...
was the daughter of Washington Lee, a wealthy coal baron and owner of a Pennsylvania mine. After being educated at home in her early years, Price attended Miss Graham's
finishing school
A finishing school focuses on teaching young women social graces and upper-class cultural rites as a preparation for entry into society. The name reflects the fact that it follows ordinary school and is intended to complete a young woman's ...
in New York after her family moved there.
''
The New York Times
''The New York Times'' (''NYT'') is an American daily newspaper based in New York City. ''The New York Times'' covers domestic, national, and international news, and publishes opinion pieces, investigative reports, and reviews. As one of ...
'' Dinitia Smith reports, in her review of Laura Claridge's 2008 biography of Post,
Emily was tall, pretty and spoiled. ..She grew up in a world of grand estates, her life governed by carefully delineated rituals like the cotillion
The cotillion (also cotillon or French country dance) is a social dance, popular in 18th-century Europe and North America. Originally for four couples in square formation, it was a courtly version of an English country dance, the forerunner ...
with its complex forms and its dances—the Fan, the Ladies Mocked, Mother Goose—called out in dizzying turns by the dance master.
Price met her future husband, Edwin Main Post, a prominent banker, at a ball in a
Fifth Avenue
Fifth Avenue is a major thoroughfare in the borough (New York City), borough of Manhattan in New York City. The avenue runs south from 143rd Street (Manhattan), West 143rd Street in Harlem to Washington Square Park in Greenwich Village. The se ...
mansion. Following their wedding in 1892 and a honeymoon tour of Europe, they lived in New York's
Washington Square. They also had a country cottage, named "Emily Post Cottage", in
Tuxedo Park, which was one of four
Bruce Price Cottages she inherited from her father. The couple moved to
Staten Island
Staten Island ( ) is the southernmost of the boroughs of New York City, five boroughs of New York City, coextensive with Richmond County and situated at the southernmost point of New York (state), New York. The borough is separated from the ad ...
and had two sons, Edwin Main Post Jr. (1893) and Bruce Price Post (1895).
Emily and Edwin divorced in 1905 because of his affairs with
chorus girls and fledgling actresses, which made him the target of
blackmail
Blackmail is a criminal act of coercion using a threat.
As a criminal offense, blackmail is defined in various ways in common law jurisdictions. In the United States, blackmail is generally defined as a crime of information, involving a thr ...
.
Career

Post began to write once her two sons were old enough to attend
boarding school
A boarding school is a school where pupils live within premises while being given formal instruction. The word "boarding" is used in the sense of "room and board", i.e. lodging and meals. They have existed for many centuries, and now extend acr ...
. Her early work included humorous travel books, newspaper articles on architecture and interior design, and magazine serials for ''
Harper's
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'', ''
Scribner's
Charles Scribner's Sons, or simply Scribner's or Scribner, is an American publisher based in New York City that has published several notable American authors, including Henry James, Ernest Hemingway, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Kurt Vonnegut, Marjo ...
'', and ''
The Century''. She wrote five novels: ''Flight of a Moth'' (1904), ''Purple and Fine Linen'' (1905), ''Woven in the Tapestry'' (1908), ''The Title Market'' (1909), and ''The Eagle's Feather'' (1910).
In 1916, she published ''By Motor to the Golden Gate—''a recount of a road trip she made from New York to San Francisco on the
Lincoln Highway
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with her son Edwin and another companion.
Post wrote her first etiquette book ''
Etiquette in Society, in Business, in Politics, and at Home'' (1922, frequently referenced as ''Etiquette'') when she was 50.
It became a best-seller with numerous editions over the following decades. After 1931, Post spoke on radio programs and wrote a column on good taste for the
Bell Syndicate. The column appeared daily in over 200 newspapers after 1932.
In her review of Claridge's 2008 biography of Post,
''The New York Times'' Dinitia Smith explains the keys to Post's popularity:
Such books had always been popular in America: the country's exotic mix of immigrants and newly rich were eager to fit in with the establishment. Men had to be taught not to blow their noses into their hands or to spit tobacco onto ladies' backs. Arthur M. Schlesinger, who wrote ''Learning How to Behave: A Historical Study of American Etiquette Books'' in 1946, said that etiquette books were part of "the leveling-up process of democracy," an attempt to resolve the conflict between the democratic ideal and the reality of class. But Post's etiquette books went far beyond those of her predecessors. They read like short-story collections with recurring characters: the Toploftys, the Eminents, the Richan Vulgars, the Gildings, and the Kindharts.
In 1946, Post founded
The Emily Post Institute, which continues her work.
Death
Post died in her
New York City
New York, often called New York City (NYC), is the most populous city in the United States, located at the southern tip of New York State on one of the world's largest natural harbors. The city comprises five boroughs, each coextensive w ...
apartment in 1960 at the age of 87.
She is buried in the cemetery at
St. Mary's-in-Tuxedo Episcopal Church in
Tuxedo Park, New York
Tuxedo Park is a village in Orange County, New York, United States. Its population was 645 at the 2020 census. It is part of the Kiryas Joel–Poughkeepsie–Newburgh metropolitan area as well as the larger New York metropolitan area. Its name ...
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Cultural legacy
A portrait of Emily Post by
Emil Fuchs (ca. 1906) is in the collection of the
Brooklyn Museum
The Brooklyn Museum is an art museum in the New York City borough (New York City), borough of Brooklyn. At , the museum is New York City's second largest and contains an art collection with around 500,000 objects. Located near the Prospect Heig ...
.
Frank Tashlin
Frank Tashlin (born Francis Fredrick von Taschlein, February 19, 1913 – May 5, 1972), also known as Tish Tash and Frank Tash, was an American animator and filmmaker. He was best known for his work on the ''Looney Tunes'' and ''Merrie Melodies'' ...
featured Post's caricature emerging from her etiquette book and scolding England's King
Henry VIII
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about his lack of manners in the
cartoon
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''
Have You Got Any Castles?'' (1938).
''
Pageant'' in 1950 named her the second most powerful woman in America, after
Eleanor Roosevelt
Anna Eleanor Roosevelt ( ; October 11, 1884November 7, 1962) was an American political figure, diplomat, and activist. She was the longest-serving First Lady of the United States, first lady of the United States, during her husband Franklin D ...
.
On May 28, 1998, the
United States Postal Service
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issued a 32¢ stamp featuring Post as part of their
Celebrate the Century stamp sheet series.
In 2008,
Laura Claridge published ''Emily Post: Daughter of the Gilded Age, Mistress of American Manners'', the first full-length biography of the author.
See also
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Adolph Freiherr Knigge
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Amy Vanderbilt
Beverly x Brooklyn* ''
Book of the Civilized Man''
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Brad Templeton
Brad Templeton (born June 1960 near Toronto) is a Canadian software developer, internet entrepreneur, online community pioneer, publisher of news, comedy, science fiction and e-books, writer, photographer, civil rights advocate, futurist, public s ...
—who posted ''Emily Postnews Answers Your Questions on netiquette'' on Usenet
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Letitia Baldrige
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Miss Manners
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Miss Porter's School
Miss Porter's School (MPS) is a private college preparatory school for girls founded in 1843 in Farmington, Connecticut. The school draws students from many of the 50 U.S. states, as well as from abroad. International students comprised 14% i ...
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Lillian Eichler Watson—Post's primary competitor from the 1920s through the 1950s
Explanatory notes
References
Further reading
* Claridge, Laura. ''Emily Post: Daughter of the Gilded Age, Mistress of American Manners'' (Random House, 2008), a standard biography
* Gale, Robert L. "Post, Emily" ''American National Biography'' (1999
online a short scholarly biography
* Hall, Dennis. "Modern and Postmodern Wedding Planners: Emily Post's" Etiquette in Society"(1937) and Blum & Kaiser's" Weddings for Dummies"(1997)." ''Studies in Popular Culture'' 24.3 (2002): 37-48.
* Myers, Nancy. "Rethinking Etiquette: Emily Post's Rhetoric of Social Self-Reliance for American Women." in ''Rhetoric, History, and Women's Oratorical Education'' (Routledge, 2013), pp 189–207.
* Post, Edwin M. ''Truly Emily Post'' (1961), a standard biography
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