''That's Not What I Meant! How Conversational Style Makes or Breaks Relationships'' is
Deborah Tannen's first book presenting, for a general audience, her
linguistic approach to explaining how ways of speaking affect relationships. Predating by four years her phenomenally bestselling book about
gender differences
Sex differences in humans have been studied in a variety of fields. Sex determination occurs by the presence or absence of a Y in the 23rd pair of chromosomes in the human genome. Phenotypic sex refers to an individual's sex as determined by the ...
in ways of speaking, ''
You Just Don't Understand
''You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation'' is a 1990 non-fiction book on language and gender by Deborah Tannen, a professor of sociolinguistics at Georgetown University. It draws partly on academic research by Tannen and others, ...
'', this book approaches
communication and miscommunication from a linguistic point of view rather than a psychological one, emphasizing differences between the genders. The book lays out the linguistic devices and rituals that constitute "conversational style", such as indirectness, pacing, pausing, humor, overlap, and interruption, and shows their effects when styles differ.
See also
* ''
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus''
*
Nonverbal communication
References
Sociology books
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