A stag and doe party, stag and drag party, hen and stag party, buck
and doe party, or a jack and jill party is a party and fundraiser for
an engaged couple.
1 By country
1.2 United States
In Canada, an event popular mostly in Manitoba or Ontario under
various names to raise money for a couple for their future wedding
plans or honeymoon. In
Southern Ontario it may be called a stag and
doe, or buck and doe, and in Northwestern Ontario it is called a shag.
In Manitoba, this is often called a social or wedding social with less
fundraising pressure than seen in Ontario.
The event is usually organized by the bridal party, but in some
circumstances may also be held by the bride and groom before they are
married, similar to a Jack & Jill. It acts as a fundraiser for the
wedding. Guests purchase entrance tickets and are entertained by
draws, food and drink, music and fun and games that they will pay for
to participate in. It is not a combined stag night/bachelor party and
bachelorette party, or engagement party, as the primary focus is to
raise money for the engaged couple, so their new life together is not
started in debt.
The intent of a stag and doe party is specifically to make a profit.
Often, people who may not be close enough to the engaged couple to
warrant an invitation to the wedding or reception (especially in the
case of a small wedding), will be "tapped" to attend the stag and doe
so as to be part of the overall wedding fundraising. Hosting a stag
and doe party does not preclude the couple from participating in other
wedding-related parties, such as a bridal shower, bachelor party,
bachelorette party, and so on.
A popular stag and doe tradition is a toonie toss, which has guests
toss toonies (C$2 coins) at a Texas mickey (3L) bottle of liquor. The
toss runs for some time until the
Toonie closest to the bottle without
making contact wins the bottle.
In Manitoba, in addition to purchasing entrance tickets, guests bid on
silent auction prizes, participate in a 50-50 draw, and purchase
liquor. Typical food at a Manitoba wedding social includes KUB
bread, cold cuts, cheese cubes, and Timbits. Often the bridal or
wedding shower is held the afternoon before the social. Other times,
it is used as a fundraiser for the wedding itself and will be held a
few weeks before the day of the wedding.
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Though very uncommon in the United States, stag and drag is held
before the wedding of a couple as a big party open to all friends.
Guests typically have to purchase a ticket to cover the costs of the
event. Unlike wedding reception or engagement, a stag and drag is not
expected to be attended only by the invited guest list of a wedding
reception, if there is to be one. Anyone can attend – the more
guests, the better. Stag and drag could be conducted from many months
before the wedding, to a couple of weeks before. The stag and drag
party could include food, drink, games, music, dancing, bonfire and
other fun activities. Guests could be offered memorabilia such as an
engraved cup with the couple's names and wedding date.
The United States version is not meant to be a profitable money making
event, but more of a large party that breaks even financially as a
time for friends beyond the wedding reception invite list to join in
on the future bride and groom's happy occasion. It is used more often
when a couple elopes as a way of the couple to marry having a party
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^ Schwegel, Courtney (25 March 2009). "Tacky, or just good old
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^ Cherniack, Lawrie, and Cy Fien. "Common Law Marriages in Manitoba."
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