Non-consensual condom removal, or "stealthing", is the practice of a man removing a
condom during
sexual intercourse without consent, when his sex partner has only
consented to condom-protected sex.
Victims are exposed to potential
sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as
HIV/AIDS
Human immunodeficiency virus infection and acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (HIV/AIDS) is a spectrum of conditions caused by infection with the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), a retrovirus. Following initial infection an individual ...
, or
unwanted pregnancies.
Such behaviour may be therefore regarded as
sexual assault or
rape
Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without their consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or ...
, and sometimes as a form of
reproductive coercion
Reproductive coercion (also called coerced reproduction, reproductive control or reproductive abuse) is a collection of behaviors that interfere with decision-making related to reproductive health. These behaviors are meant to maintain power and ...
.
As of 2020, stealthing is punishable as a form of
sexual violence
Sexual violence is any sexual act or attempt to obtain a sexual act by violence or coercion, act to traffic a person, or act directed against a person's sexuality, regardless of the relationship to the victim.World Health Organization., World re ...
in some countries, such as Germany and the United Kingdom.
Purposefully damaging a condom before or during intercourse may also be referred to as stealthing,
regardless of who damaged the condom.
History and practice
In an article about stealthing published in the ''
Columbia Journal of Gender and Law'', Alexandra Brodsky described victims' experiences, legal implications, and legal avenues to address stealthing.
The term ''stealthing'' has been in use in the
gay community
The LGBT community (also known as the LGBTQ+ community, GLBT community, gay community, or queer community) is a loosely defined grouping of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and other queer individuals united by a common culture and ...
to describe the
criminal transmission of HIV
Criminal transmission of HIV is the intentional or reckless infection of a person with the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV). This is often conflated, in laws and in discussion, with criminal exposure to HIV, which does not require the transm ...
Brodsky described how the practice of stealthing is discussed, described, and advocated for on various websites and forums.
These forums are sometimes used to brag about committing stealthing and to share tips on how to do it.
How-to guides have been posted to
social media
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platforms like ''
The Experience Project''.
The practice has also been described as "a threat to
victim'sbodily agency and as a dignitary harm", and men who do this "justify their actions as a natural male instinct".
Columbia Law School
Columbia Law School (Columbia Law or CLS) is the law school of Columbia University, a private Ivy League university in New York City. Columbia Law is widely regarded as one of the most prestigious law schools in the world and has always ranked i ...
professor Suzanne Goldberg says that the practice of stealthing is likely not new, but its promotion on the internet among men is new.
Belgian journalist Heleen Debruyne emphasised in 2017 that the media should not refer to stealthing as a 'new sex trend' as if it were a harmless
fad
A fad or trend is any form of collective behavior that develops within a culture, a generation or social group in which a group of people enthusiastically follow an impulse for a short period.
Fads are objects or behaviors that achieve short- ...
, but make clear that it is a 'form of abuse'.
Teitelman et al. (2011) found that condom negotiation is often silenced by male partners in adolescent relationships, partially due to the woman's fear of her partner's response, a feeling of obligation, and a lack of knowledge or skills in negotiating condom use. To prevent this, it is important that male partners are reached with the information as to why condoms are beneficial for them as well. Forums for this outreach could include community-wide interventions fostering discussion of healthy and unhealthy relationship practices and prevention programs for
HIV/AIDS
Human immunodeficiency virus infection and acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (HIV/AIDS) is a spectrum of conditions caused by infection with the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), a retrovirus. Following initial infection an individual ...
and
STIs. Schools can provide a safe site for prevention interventions, but high-risk adolescents who are not in school must be reached through additional means, such as in community centers or detention centers.
Statistics on the prevalence of stealthing are limited.
However, a 2014 study by Kelly Cue Davis and colleagues reported that 9.0% of participants in their sample of young men reported having engaged in
condom sabotage, which included non-consensual condom removal. The
National Sexual Assault Hotline reports receiving calls about stealthing.
[ A recent study from a Melbourne-based ]sexual health clinic
Sexual health clinics specialize in the prevention and treatment of sexually transmitted infections.
Terminology
Sexual health clinics are also called ''sexually transmitted disease (STD) clinics'', ''sexually transmitted infection (STI) clini ...
asked women and men who have sex with men
Men who have sex with men (MSM) are male persons who engage in sexual activity with members of the same sex. The term was created in the 1990s by epidemiologists to study the spread of disease among all men who have sex with men, regardless of ...
(MSM) attending the clinic whether they had experienced stealthing, and analysed situational factors associated with the event. 32% of women and 19% of MSM reported having ever experienced stealthing. Women who had been stealthed were more likely to be a current sex worker
A sex worker is a person who provides sex work, either on a regular or occasional basis. The term is used in reference to those who work in all areas of the sex industry.Oxford English Dictionary, "sex worker"
According to one view, sex work i ...
and MSM who had experienced stealthing were more likely to report anxiety
Anxiety is an emotion which is characterized by an unpleasant state of inner turmoil and includes feelings of dread over anticipated events. Anxiety is different than fear in that the former is defined as the anticipation of a future threat wh ...
or depression. Both female and male participants who had experienced stealthing were three times less likely to consider it to be sexual assault than participants who had not experienced it. Two other studies were recently published with U.S. samples. One study found that almost 10% of young male non-problem drinkers reported having engaged in nonconsensual condom removal since the age of 14. Men who had engaged in this behavior reported higher rates of STI diagnoses and partners with unplanned pregnancies than men who had not engaged in nonconsensual condom removal. In another study of young adult women, 12% reported that they had experienced nonconsensual condom removal by a male partner, while none of the participants reported engaging in nonconsensual condom removal themselves.
Brianna Chesser and April Zahra (2019) stated in ''Current Issues in Criminal Justice
Published since 1989, ''Current Issues in Criminal Justice'' is the peer-reviewed law journal of the Sydney Institute of Criminology at the University of Sydney Law School.
''Current Issues in Criminal Justice'' provides critical analysis and ...
'': "While the majority of complainant accounts indicate that this crime is perpetrated by men, it is also possible for a female to 'stealth' her partner and remove the condom without her partner's consent. It follows that both men and women can both be victims and perpetrators of stealthing." A 2013 article in ''The Week
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Legal issues
In her review, Brodsky called for stealthing to be legally considered as a kind of sexual assault, but also reviewed the difficulties in doing so: In all legal areas, breaking an agreement usually is not considered a crime, and that misrepresenting one's true intentions does not make a sexual act illegal. Thus, the most successful argument for making stealthing punishable would be the inherent pregnancy and Sexually transmitted infection">infection risk of unprotected intercourse.
Court verdicts and laws by country
Australia
In May 2017, an Australian court case was underway regarding stealthing. The president of the Law Society of New South Wales has described stealthing as sexual assault because it changes the terms of consent.[
* Australian Capital Territory: In October 2021, the Australian Capital Territory criminalized stealthing by amending current consent provisions under the territory's Crimes Act to state that a person's consent is negated if it is caused by the intentional misrepresentation by the other person about the use of a condom. This was the result of an April 2020 proposal by assembly member Elizabeth Lee.
* On 6 September 2022 law received royal assent in state of Victoria outlawing non-consensual condom removal. The law will enter into effect in 2023.][Australia Is (Finally) Turning The Tide On Stealthing Laws—Here's What That Means](_blank)
1 September 2022
* On 6 June 2022 law went into effect in state of Tasmania outlawing non-consensual condom removal.
* In June 2022 law went into effect in state of New South Wales outlawing non-consensual condom removal.
* Laws are pending in Queensland and South Australia.
Canada
A 2014 Supreme Court of Canada ruling (''R v. Hutchinson'') upheld a sexual assault conviction of a man who poked holes in his condom. Eight years later, the same court ruled that people who don't wear a condom despite being asked to by a sexual partner may also be convicted of sexual assault.
Germany
In 2018, a man was found guilty of sexual assault in Germany's first conviction for stealthing. In a 2022 German case, a woman was sentenced for sexual assault after using defective condoms in order to get pregnant by a man who did not seek a committed, serious relationship.
Switzerland
In 2017, a court in Lausanne
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convicted a man for rape
Rape is a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse or other forms of sexual penetration carried out against a person without their consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority, or ...
for removing a condom during sex against the expectations of the woman he was having sex with, but in another case in 2019, the cantonal supreme court of Zürich
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disagreed. It held that such conduct was not illegal, albeit with regret. In May 2022, the Federal Supreme Court decided that stealthing was not punishable as (sexual act with a person incapable of proper judgment or resistance, article 191 of the penal code) because the victim was still capable of defending herself. The incapability to do so is a necessary requirement to punish an act under article 191. Not knowing about the state of the condom only impinges the ''decision'' to initiate defensive action, but does not diminish the victim's ''ability'' to defend herself, as the court noted. As the previous instances did not try the two men for sexual harassment (article 198), the Federal Court did not determine whether stealthing would constitute sexual harassment.
United Kingdom
In the UK, although no specific legislation has been enacted, there have been a handful of convictions and thus case law has established that non consensual condom removal is rape.
United States
Outside of California
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, laws in the United States do not specifically cover stealthing, and as of 2017, there were no known legal cases about it.
* California: In September 2021, the California State Legislature passed a bill sponsored by Assembly
Assembly may refer to:
Organisations and meetings
* Deliberative assembly, a gathering of members who use parliamentary procedure for making decisions
* General assembly, an official meeting of the members of an organization or of their representa ...
member Cristina Garcia which would make it illegal to " ausecontact between a penis, from which a condom has been removed, and the intimate part of another who did not verbally consent to the condom being removed" during sex. Such an act would then be punishable as "sexual battery
Battery is a criminal Offence (law), offense involving unlawful physical contact, distinct from assault which is the act of creating apprehension of such contact.
Battery is a specific common law offense, although the term is used more general ...
". Previously, Garcia introduced similar bills in 2017 and 2018 for the Californian criminal code, but they didn't receive a hearing or died in committee, so Garcia sought to add the provision to the state's civil code this time. In October 2021 Governor Gavin Newsom
Gavin Christopher Newsom (born October 10, 1967) is an American politician and businessman who has been the 40th governor of California since 2019. A member of the Democratic Party, he served as the 49th lieutenant governor of California f ...
signed a bill which made the practice a civil offense, which makes it not a crime, but an act that allows victims to sue perpetrators over the act.
New Zealand
In April 2021, a man in New Zealand was convicted of rape for performing stealthing during a consensual act with a sex worker (the event took place in 2018). The man was sentenced to three years and nine months in prison.
Impact and risks
Removing or damaging a condom during sex increases the risks of unintended pregnancy
Unintended pregnancies are pregnancies that are mistimed, unplanned or unwanted at the time of conception.
Sexual activity without the use of effective contraception through choice or coercion is the predominant cause of unintended pregnancy. W ...
and the transmission of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Victims may feel betrayal and many victims see it as a "grave violation of dignity and autonomy". Many may also experience emotional and psychological distress, especially those who have experienced sexual violence in the past.
In popular culture
The phrase "rape adjacent" appears in Michaela Coel
Michaela Ewuraba Boakye-Collinson (born 1 October 1987), known professionally as Michaela Coel, is a British screenwriter and actress. She is best known for creating and starring in the E4 sitcom ''Chewing Gum'' (2015–2017), for which she won ...
's 2020 television miniseries '' I May Destroy You,'' which includes a scene depicting non-consensual condom removal. In episode five, Arabella (played by Coel) publicly describes how Zain (played by Karan Gill) removed a condom during sex without her consent or knowledge and identifies him as rapist under U.K. law: "not rape-adjacent or a bit rapey, he's a rapist under U.K. law." She goes on to distinguish U.K. law from that of the United States and Australia, explaining "if you're in the States, he's rape-adjacent and if you're in Australia, he's a bit rapey."[Episode 5, I May Destroy You (June 22, 2020). BBC/HBO.]
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