Robert Edward Lee Jr. (October 27, 1843 – October 19, 1914) was the sixth of seven children of
Confederate
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General
Robert E. Lee
Robert Edward Lee (January 19, 1807 – October 12, 1870) was a general officers in the Confederate States Army, Confederate general during the American Civil War, who was appointed the General in Chief of the Armies of the Confederate ...
and
Mary Anna Randolph Custis. He became a soldier during the
American Civil War
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, and later was a
planter, businessman, and author.
Early life

Rob Lee was born and raised at
Arlington House across the
Potomac River
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from Washington, D.C. He was close to his father, who he was named after, and his sister,
Mildred Childe Lee
Mildred Childe Lee (February 10, 1846 – March 27, 1905) was an American society hostess and the youngest child of Robert E. Lee and Mary Anna Custis Lee. She was the last member of the Lee family to be born at Arlington Plantation and had a pr ...
.
He attended boarding schools during much of the 1850s, while his father, a career
U.S. Army
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officer, was serving in the
Mexican–American War
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and as Superintendent of the
United States Military Academy
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at
West Point, New York
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. Unlike his father and two older brothers, Rob apparently never envisioned a military career, never serving in the United States Army. In 1860, he enrolled at the
University of Virginia
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.
Civil War
When the
American Civil War
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broke out in 1861, his father and his two older brothers,
Custis and
Rooney, all chose to serve
Virginia
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in the
Confederate Army
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. To his mother's dismay, Rob joined them in 1862, enlisting in the
Rockbridge Artillery as a private.
During the
Battle of Sharpsburg
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in September 1862, young Robert watched his father ride up to his artillery battery, which had already been heavily engaged. Junior stood by expecting to hear a few words of affection from his father, but Lee did not recognize his own son, hidden by the grime of black powder on his face. When Junior finally spoke up to ask if they would be thrown back into the fight, the general recognized him by his voice. "Yes, my son. You must do what you can to drive those people back," Lee said. After the
Maryland Campaign
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, he was promoted to lieutenant and assigned as an aide to his older brother General
William Henry Fitzhugh Lee
William Henry Fitzhugh Lee (May 31, 1837 – October 15, 1891), known as Rooney Lee (often spelled "Roony" among friends and family) or W. H. F. Lee, was the second son of General Robert E. Lee and Mary Anna Custis. He was a planter, a Confe ...
, rising to the rank of captain before the end of the war.

"He frightened the family near the end of the war by disappearing for nearly a month after his horse was wounded on the retreat from Petersburg. By the time he had found another, the Federals were between him and his father's army. He turned south and was in the room in Greensboro, North Carolina, when Jefferson Davis got confirmation that the elder Lee had surrendered at Appomattox."
Postbellum career
All four Lees survived the Civil War. After the war, Lee lived and farmed
Romancoke Plantation on the north bank of the
Pamunkey River
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in
King William County
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, which he inherited from his maternal grandfather
George Washington Parke Custis
George Washington Parke Custis (April 30, 1781 – October 10, 1857) was an American antiquarian, author, playwright, and slave owner. He was a veteran of the War of 1812. His father John Parke Custis served in the American Revolution wi ...
. Romancoke was located approximately four miles from the
Town of West Point.
Lee also became a writer, gathering his memories of his family and life in ''Recollections and Letters of General Robert E. Lee'' (1904). The first-hand account provides a valuable source of information on day-to-day life at Arlington House during his youth, and includes many items of interest regarding his father's entire life.
Robert E. Lee Jr. died in 1914. He was interred with his parents and siblings in the college chapel, now known as
University Chapel in
Lexington, Virginia
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, where his father and brother Custis each had served as a president of the college now known as
Washington and Lee University
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.
Marriage and family
Robert Lee married twice. On November 16, 1871, he married Charlotte Haxall (October 23, 1848 – September 22, 1872). No children survived her.
On March 8, 1894, in Washington D.C., he married Juliet Case (April 6, 1860 – November 17, 1915), who was 16 years younger than him. They had two daughters, Anne Carter Lee (July 21, 1897 - November 8, 1978) and Mary Custis Lee (December 23, 1900 - December 26, 1994).
Lee's mother, Mary Anna Randolph Custis Lee, was the only surviving child of
George Washington Parke Custis
George Washington Parke Custis (April 30, 1781 – October 10, 1857) was an American antiquarian, author, playwright, and slave owner. He was a veteran of the War of 1812. His father John Parke Custis served in the American Revolution wi ...
and
Mary Lee Fitzhugh. George Washington Parke Custis was the grandson of
Martha Dandridge and adopted grandson (although not legally) of
George Washington
George Washington (, 1799) was a Founding Fathers of the United States, Founding Father and the first president of the United States, serving from 1789 to 1797. As commander of the Continental Army, Washington led Patriot (American Revoluti ...
.
Notes
References
Biographical Sketch, National Park Service
External links
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