Preacher's kid is a term to refer to a child of a

preacher A preacher is a person who delivers sermons or homilies on religious topics to an assembly of people. Less common are preachers who preach on the street, or those whose message is not necessarily religious, but who preach components such as a ...

pastor A pastor (abbreviated as "Pr" or "Ptr" , or "Ps" ) is the leader of a Christian congregation who also gives advice and counsel to people from the community or congregation. In Lutheranism, Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxy, Oriental Orthodoxy and ...

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vicar A vicar (; Latin: ''vicarius'') is a representative, deputy or substitute; anyone acting "in the person of" or agent for a superior (compare "vicarious" in the sense of "at second hand"). Linguistically, ''vicar'' is cognate with the English pref ...

lay leader A lay leader is a member of the laity in any congregation who has been chosen as a leader either by their peers or the leadership of the congregation. In most denominations, lay leadership is not an ordained clerical office, and the lay leader's res ...

priest A priest is a religious leader authorized to perform the sacred rituals of a religion, especially as a mediatory agent between humans and one or more deities. They also have the authority or power to administer religious rites; in particu ...

, minister or other similar church leader. Although the phrase can be used in a purely descriptive way, it may also be used as a

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. In some countries, a preacher's kid is referred to as a vicar's son/daughter.

Phenomenon

Children of clergy often experience pressure due to the expectations placed on them,J. Elizabeth Norrell,
Clergy Family Satisfaction
," ''Family Science Review'', Vol. 2, No. 4, November, 1989 pp. 337-346. and may develop feelings of isolation and inner conflict as a result. Parental workload (which, by definition, includes working on the weekend) may also be a source of stress. Some writers suggest that there is a "preacher's kid syndrome", in which children of clergy reject religion and the church. Such rebellious children of the clergy are a stock figure in the

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of the

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, and this view is seen as a

. One literary example occurs in

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's play ''

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'' when the traveling salesman Hickey describes his life: "You see, even as a kid I was always restless. I had to keep on the go. You’ve heard the old saying, 'Ministers' sons are sons of guns.' Well, that was me, and then some." Other writers note that children of the clergy (both

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and

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) may often become clergy themselves, such as

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, son of Martin Luther King Sr.; and

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, son of

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. Children of clergy may be more exposed than their peers to the defining events of life. Former

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recalled that he learned much about life, death, poverty, injustice and unemployment as the son of a

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minister. The "preacher's kid" phenomenon has been connected with the related phenomenon of "

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s" (children of active-duty military personnel). Children of preachers who are

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(

missionary kid Missionary’s kids (or MKs) are the children of missionary parents, and thus born or raised abroad (that is, on the "mission-field"). They form a subset of third culture kids (TCKs). The term is more specifically applied when these children retur ...

s) may also be

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Stereotypes

There are two different stereotypes of the preacher's kid: in one, they are perfectly angelic role models, in the other they are rebels at the opposite extreme.Tara J. Allman
An Analysis of the Stereotypes of Preacher’s Kids and its Application on their Spouses
Masters thesis, Marshall University, 2007. The existence of these stereotypes is a source of pressure on children of clergy. Examples of the negative stereotype include the preacher's son from Maine in the film '' Gettysburg'', described as the "best darn cusser I've ever heard" and Jessica Lovejoy in the " Bart's Girlfriend" episode of ''

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''. On the sitcom ''

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'', the character

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played by

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played off a variety of stereotypes including the "

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", but also as daughter of Reverend Luther Snow (

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), the character – as well as much of the show's humor – was developed around aspects of Chrissy's innocence and naïvety based on a stereotype of her religious upbringing in small town America. The TV series '' 7th Heaven'' is also a good example of the pastor's kid stereotype. The Camden family father, Eric (

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), is a minister, and he and his wife Annie (

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) have seven children. Sometimes they are perfect angels but most of the time the show displays the trials that the family go through as the children grow up, and often the children are criticized because of who their father is. Lifetime

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series Preachers' Daughters follows the lives of

preacher's daughters and their families. An enduring image from popular music is presented in the hit song "

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," a ballad of young love remembered, places the minister's son as a "sweet-talkin' son of a preacher man", who is possibly more sensitive to women and thus able to emotionally reach the girl who claims that, "The only one who could ever reach me/Was the son of a preacher man/The only boy who could ever teach me/Was the son of a preacher man." Versions of the recording from major stars like

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and

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kept this image, drawn from a southern US setting, visible internationally. The "preacher's daughter" is also a pervasive negative stereotype ascribed to female children that has a particular set of connotations, often sexual, rebellious, or dark in nature. The stereotype is typically suggestive of a dual life: one lived as the expected descendant of piety and the other lived wild, outside of the morals of religion, cloaked in secrecy. Songs such as "Preacher's Daughter" by American R&B singer-songwriter Anthony Hamilton exhibit this role: "She had a habit that she couldn't really stop, needed money so she had to hit the block, nobody knew it so she steady had to play a role, went to church, but surely tearin' up her soul... she was a Preacher's Daughter."

Other terms

In Scotland, to be a "child of the

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" is considered very influential on a person's upbringing. In German, the terms ''Pfarrerskind'' and ''Priesterkind'' are used to refer to children of clergy. Greek surnames with the prefix ''Papa-'' and

Armenian surnames An Armenian name comprises a given name and a surname. First names According to Armenia's National Statistical Service, the most commonly used names for newborn boys in Armenia, , were Davit, Narek, Gor, Hayk, Alex, Erik, Arman, Samvel, Tigr ...

with the prefix ''Ter-'' or ''Der-'' refer to people who are the descendants of clergy.

Phenomenon

Stereotypes

Other terms

See also

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