The word ''lady'' is a term for a
girl
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or
woman
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, with various connotations. Once used to describe only women of a high social class or status, the equivalent of
lord
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, now it may refer to any adult woman, as
gentleman can be used for men. Informal use is sometimes euphemistic ("lady of the night" for
prostitute) or, in
American slang American slang is slang that is common in, or particular to, the United States.
The term can refer specifically to:
Language
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, condescending in direct address (equivalent to "mister" or "man").
"Lady" is also a formal
title in the United Kingdom. "Lady" is used before the
family name of a woman with a title of
nobility
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or honorary title ''
suo jure
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'' (in her own right), or the wife of a lord, a
baronet
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, Scottish
feudal baron,
laird
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, or a
knight
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, and also before the first name of the daughter of a
duke
Duke is a male title either of a monarch ruling over a duchy, or of a member of royalty, or nobility. As rulers, dukes are ranked below emperors, kings, grand princes, grand dukes, and sovereign princes. As royalty or nobility, they are rank ...
,
marquess, or
earl
Earl () is a rank of the nobility in the United Kingdom. The title originates in the Old English word ''eorl'', meaning "a man of noble birth or rank". The word is cognate with the Scandinavian form '' jarl'', and meant "chieftain", particula ...
.
Etymology
The word comes from
Old English
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'; the first part of the word is a mutated form of ', "loaf,
bread", also seen in the corresponding ', "lord". The second part is usually taken to be from the root ''dig-'', "to knead", seen also in
dough
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; the sense development from bread-kneader, or bread-maker, or bread-shaper, to the ordinary meaning, though not clearly to be traced historically, may be illustrated by that of "lord".
Usage
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The primary meaning of "mistress of a household" is now mostly obsolete,
[ save for the term "]landlady
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" and in set phrases such as "the lady of the house". This meaning is retained in the southern states of the United States. In some contexts "lady" is synonymous with the old-fashioned word "gentlewoman
A gentlewoman (from the Latin ''gentilis'', belonging to a ''gens'', and English 'woman') in the original and strict sense is a woman of good family, analogous to the Latin ''generosus'' and ''generosa''. The closely related English word "gentry" ...
", meaning someone of high social status by birth and upbringing, but not necessarily titled. The term is also used in titles such as first lady and lady mayoress, the wives of elected or appointed officials.
In many European languages
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the equivalent term serves as a general form of address
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equivalent to the English ''Mrs
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'' ( French ', Spanish
Spanish might refer to:
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**Spaniards are a nation and ethnic group indigenous to Spain
**Spanish language, spoken in Spain and many Latin American countries
**Spanish cuisine
Other places
* Spanish, Ontario, Can ...
', Italian
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* Anything of, from, or related to the people of Italy over the centuries
** Italians, an ethnic group or simply a citizen of the Italian Republic or Italian Kingdom
** Italian language, a Romance language
*** Regional Ita ...
', German
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* Germany (of or related to)
** Germania (historical use)
* Germans, citizens of Germany, people of German ancestry, or native speakers of the German language
** For citizens of Germany, see also German nationality law
**Ge ...
', Polish
Polish may refer to:
* Anything from or related to Poland, a country in Europe
* Polish language
* Poles
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', etc.). In those languages it is correct to address a woman whose name is unknown as ', ', etc., but in polite English usage "lady" has for centuries only normally been a term of address in the plural,Oxford English Dictionary
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which is also the case for " gentleman". The singular vocative
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use (i.e. to address someone directly) was once common but has become mostly confined to poetry. In some dialects it may still be used to address an unknown woman in a brusque manner, often in an imperative or interrogatory context, analogous to " mister" for an unknown male: e.g., "Hey, lady, you aren't allowed in here!" In this usage, the word "lady" is very seldom capitalized when written. The usual English term for politely addressing a woman is '' madam'' or its abbreviation ''ma'am''.
In English, relatively few job titles are un-gendered. Some names for jobs are gender-neutral, e.g. mail carrier
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(postal worker), but where there is a common word with a -man suffix, sometimes -lady may be used as an equivalent, e.g. postman and (sometimes) postlady. Using "lady" in professional job titles which had previously been male preserves fell out of favour with second-wave feminism
Second-wave feminism was a period of feminist activity that began in the early 1960s and lasted roughly two decades. It took place throughout the Western world, and aimed to increase equality for women by building on previous feminist gains.
...
(lady doctor, lady engineer, lady judge), though lady doctor is sometimes used by a healthcare receptionist when booking an appointment at a group practice health centre so that the situation is clear to the patient. It is still used in some other occupations, to give dignity and express respect to less skilled work such as tea ladies in offices and hospitals, lunch ladies (or dinner ladies) in school canteens, cleaning ladies in private homes and in business premises, and healthcare ladies for female healthcare assistants.
Both British and American commentators noted the shifting uses of "lady" in the mid-twentieth century. The American journalist William Allen White
William Allen White (February 10, 1868 – January 29, 1944) was an American newspaper editor, politician, author, and leader of the Progressive movement. Between 1896 and his death, White became a spokesman for middle America.
At a 193 ...
noted one of the difficulties in his 1946 autobiography. He relates that a woman who had paid a fine for prostitution came to his newspaper to protest, not against the fact that her conviction had been reported, but that the newspaper had referred to her as a "woman" rather than a "lady". After the incident, White assured his readers, his papers referred to human females as "women", with the exception of police court characters, who were all "ladies". The British historian Nancy Mitford
Nancy Freeman-Mitford (28 November 1904 – 30 June 1973), known as Nancy Mitford, was an English novelist, biographer, and journalist. The eldest of the Mitford sisters, she was regarded as one of the "bright young things" on the London ...
wrote an influential essay in 1954, " U vs. non-U", in which she noted the class distinctions: lower class women strongly preferred to be called "ladies", while those from higher social backgrounds were content to be identified as "women". Commenting on the word in 1953, C. S. Lewis
Clive Staples Lewis (29 November 1898 – 22 November 1963) was a British writer and Anglican lay theologian. He held academic positions in English literature at both Oxford University (Magdalen College, 1925–1954) and Cambridge Univers ...
wrote that "the guard at Holloway said it was a ''ladies prison!" The term "a bag lady" (vagabond
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) is a euphemism for a woman who has fallen on hard times; a "lady of the night" is a polite term for a prostitute.
In British English
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, "lady" is often, but not always, simply a courteous synonym for "woman". Public toilet
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s are often distinguished by signs showing simply "Ladies" or "Gentlemen". "Lady" can have a formal and respectful quality, being used to describe an elderly woman as "an old lady" or when speaking about a woman to a child (e.g. "Give the money to the lady.") It remains in use as a counterpart to "gentleman", in the plural phrase "ladies and gentlemen
Ladies and Gentlemen may refer to:
* Ladies and gentlemen (salutation), a common introductory phrase
Film and television
* ''Ladies & Gentlemen'' (2015 film), a Telugu film
* ''Ladies & Gentlemen'' (TV series), a 2021 Bangladeshi drama seri ...
", and is generally interchangeable (in a strictly informal sense) with "woman" (as in, "The lady at the store said I could return this item within thirty days"). However, some women, since the rise of second-wave feminism, have objected to the term used in contexts such as the last example, arguing that the term sounds patronising and outdated when used in this way; a man in the same context would not necessarily be referred to as a "gentleman". One feminist proponent of language reform, Robin Lakoff
Robin Tolmach Lakoff (; born November 27, 1942) is a professor emerita of linguistics at the University of California, Berkeley. Her 1975 book ''Language and Woman's Place'' is often credited for making language and gender a major debate in lin ...
, in her book ''Language and Woman's Place'' (1975), notably raised the issue of the ways in which "lady" is not used as the counterpart of "gentleman". It is suggested by academic Elizabeth Reid Boyd that feminist usage of the word "lady" has been reclaimed
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in the 21st century.
British titles
Formally, "Lady" is the female counterpart to higher ranks in society, from gentlemen, through knights, to peers of the realm. During the Middle Ages
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, princesses or daughters of the blood royal
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were usually known by their first names with "Lady" prefixed, e.g. ''The Lady Elizabeth'';[ since ]Old English
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and Middle English
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did not have a female equivalent to princes or earl
Earl () is a rank of the nobility in the United Kingdom. The title originates in the Old English word ''eorl'', meaning "a man of noble birth or rank". The word is cognate with the Scandinavian form '' jarl'', and meant "chieftain", particula ...
s or other royals or nobles. Aside from the queen, women of royal and noble status simply carried the title of "Lady".
As a title of nobility, the uses of "lady" in Britain are parallel to those of "lord". It is thus a less formal alternative to the full title giving the specific rank, of marchioness
A marquess (; french: marquis ), es, marqués, pt, marquês. is a nobleman of high hereditary rank in various European peerages and in those of some of their former colonies. The German language equivalent is Markgraf (margrave). A woman w ...
, countess
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, viscountess
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In many countries a viscount, and its historical equivalents, was a non-hereditary, administrative or judicial ...
or baroness
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, whether as the title of the husband's rank by right or courtesy, or as the lady's title in her own right.[ A peeress's title is used with the ]definite article
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In English, both "the" and "a(n)" a ...
: Lord Morris's wife is "the Lady Morris". A widow's title derived from her husband becomes the dowager
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In popular usage, the noun ...
, e.g. ''The Dowager Lady Smith''.
The title "Lady" is also used for a woman who is the wife of a Scottish feudal baron or laird
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, the title "Lady" preceding the name of the barony or lairdship. In the case of younger sons of a duke
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or marquess, who have the courtesy title "Lord" prefixed to their given and family name, the wife is known by the husband's given and family name with "Lady" prefixed, e.g. ''Lady John Smith''.[ The daughters of dukes, marquesses and earls are by courtesy "ladies"; here, that title is prefixed to the given and family name of the lady, e.g. ''Lady Jane Smith'', and this is preserved if the lady marries a commoner, e.g. ''Mr John and Lady Jane Smith''. "Lady" is also the customary title of the wife of a ]baronet
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or knight
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, but in this case without Christian name: "Lady" with the surname of the husband only,[ ''Sir John and Lady Smith''. When a woman divorces a knight and he marries again, the new wife will be ''Lady Smith'' while the ex-wife becomes ''Jane, Lady Smith''.
Female members of the Order of the Garter and Order of the Thistle also receive the prefix of "Lady"; here that title is prefixed to the given and family name of the lady, e.g. ''Lady Marion Fraser, LT'', with the post nominal LG or LT respectively, and this is preserved if the lady marries.
]
Other meanings
The special use of the word as a title
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of the Virgin Mary
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, usually '' Our Lady'', represents the Latin
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''Domina Nostra''. In Lady Day
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and Lady Chapel
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, the word is properly a genitive, representing ''hlǣfdigan''[ "of the Lady".
The word is also used as a title of the ]Wicca
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n Goddess, ''The Lady''.
Margaret Thatcher
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was informally referred to in the same way by many of her political colleagues when Prime Minister of Great Britain. Her husband was later created a baronet, thus making her "Lady Thatcher" as of right. After she retired, she was given a barony as Baroness Thatcher, of Kesteven in the County of Lincolnshire, and was thereafter known as "The Lady Thatcher".
Elsewhere in the Commonwealth, the word is used in a similar fashion to aristocratic usage in Britain. In Ghana, for example, the consort of the Asantehene of the Ashanti people is known as Lady Julia Osei Tutu. In Nigeria, the Yoruba
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aristocrats Kofoworola, Lady Ademola and Oyinkansola, Lady Abayomi made use of the title due to their being the wives of British knights.
See also
* Girl
A girl is a young female human, usually a child or an adolescent. When a girl becomes an adult, she is accurately described as a ''woman''. However, the term ''girl'' is also used for other meanings, including ''young woman'',Dictionary.c ...
* Dame, a title parallel to Sir
References
* ''Merriam Webster's Dictionary of English Usage'' (Merriam-Webster, 1989), .
* Lakoff, Robin. ''Language and Woman's Place'' (New York, Harper & Row, 1975). .
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