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Katherine H. Koestner is an American activist against
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. She came forward in 1990 at 18 years old publicly after an alleged
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that took place on
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campus which involved her and her date. Koestner started speaking out about her experience in 1991 by lecturing at other college campuses to raise awareness. She also volunteered in
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. She was featured in the media, including an
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special, ''No Visible Bruises: The Katie Koestner Story'' (1993). Koestner's work and activism has helped the term " date rape" become part of the larger discussion around rape and sexual assault. Koestner founded several campus sexual assault prevention groups after graduating from the
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in 1994. Koester is the current director of the
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, president of Campus Outreach Services and serves as an advisor for other organizations to help prevent rape and other forms of sexual violence.


Early life and assault

Koestner is from
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. She graduated from
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in Mechanicsburg, Pennsylvania, in the spring of 1990. In the fall of 1990, she enrolled in
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(W&M) where she planned to study
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and Japanese. Koestner was allegedly
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d by a student she had been dating for just over a week. She had invited the student back to her
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after a date. and They had gone on a date to a French restaurant and Koestner wanted to spend time alone with him afterwards. After inviting him in, she says he began to pressure her to have sex with him, continuing to pressure until nearly dawn. She ended up being pinned against her pink carpet by her date. Koestner said that she felt tired and weak after hours of arguing about sex and said, "He just wore me down all night. I couldn't do anything." She said her date "climbed on top of her and had sex despite her alleged protests." She said she felt "paralyzed" and that "he had a ginormous ego, and had always had what he wanted in life". Koestner did not receive any kind of medical examination until 24 hours had passed. Her former date left her notes and friends tried to arrange a meeting between them, hoping things could be patched up between them. She met him in his dorm lounge where she confronted him and asked if he had heard her say "no". He countered by saying that he heard that Koestner's father was angry with her for no longer being a
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. Koestner also felt that her alleged rape was not "taken seriously" by the school nurse who advised her to take
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and "rest the events off" instead of getting a rape kit. Instead of filing a police report, she was asked to pursue an administrative hearing at W&M. The dean of students told her it was easier to pursue her complaint through the judicial process at the college. During the hearing, the alleged rapist said he never heard Koestner say "no", as she claims, at least 12 times that night. It was decided at the hearing that there should not be a severe punishment for the rape and the perpetrator was allowed to stay "on campus on the condition that he not enter anyone's living quarters." There were "mitigating circumstances" according to administrators that allowed the alleged rapist to stay on campus.


Publicity

Because she felt a lack of support from her roommate and other women in her all-female dorm, within a couple of months after she was allegedly assaulted, Koestner moved to new quarters on campus. Her parents were also unsupportive of her. Nevertheless, in 1991, Koestner came forward publicly and stated that she was the unnamed victim in the campus hearing of the rape. The letter that she sent to her local paper trended nationwide. Koestner appeared on the cover of ''
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''. She appeared on '' Larry King Live,
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'', ''CNBC Talk Live'', and was featured in the ''
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''. The publicity caused Governor
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to ask officials involved in education in Virginia to study
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. and A few years after Koestner came forward publicly, W&M changed their policies so that students found guilty of sexual assault are required to be suspended. Koestner faced backlash for her public story about the rape: she received prank phone calls and social stigma from other classmates. Koestner chose to come forward to give a human face to the issue of date rape and also because she felt like the academic hearing was a "second victimization." Koestner wanted justice. A reporter, Jim Spencer, pointed out that while having a C average and being on academic probation could lead to expulsion, a decision that a rape occurred in the hearing did not lead to a similar punishment. The alleged rapist came forward
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in the press to state that he felt the situation was unfairly exaggerated: he had been convicted by the hearing of "emotionally pressuring, not physically forcing Koestner to have intercourse." He also said that he believed that Koestner was falsely accusing him of rape because she "began to express regrets" about having intercourse. In 1991, Koestner transferred to
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, but came back to W&M after a year after the student who allegedly raped her had been temporarily suspended. Controversy over her paid role in a planned
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dramatization about her experience led to the creation of a petition that asked for the "man's point of view" to be considered in the story. The leader of the petition campaign was the current girlfriend of Koestner's alleged rapist. and The petition signers said that the name of the alleged rapist was known on the small campus and that he would be "ruined." The school paper received letters to the editor criticizing Koestner for not reporting the rape sooner. Koestner appeared in the HBO dramatization, ''No Visible Bruises: The Katie Koestner Story'' in 1993. ''No Visible Bruises'' was a 1/2 hour special that was part of HBO's series, '' Life Stories: Families in Crisis''. Koestner started giving workshops about preventing sexual assault and also on sexual assault policies on college campuses. Her appearances were considered "divisive" by some students at the time. Koestner graduated from W&M in 1994, majoring in public policy and
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.


Groups

Koestner founded the educational organization, Campus Outreach Services in 1994. She also founded Students Helping Others to Understand Trauma (SHOUT) at
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and at W&M started the Sexual Assault Companions Program. She also volunteered at a rape crisis center and became a certified peer-educator ad sexual assault counselor in Virginia. She became the executive director of the
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. She has been published online and in print. It was Koestner's efforts that brought the concept and term "date rape" to public attention. Koestner was the first victim of alleged date rape to publicly come forward about her experience.


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Interview
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