Families Need Fathers - Both Parents Matter (FNF), founded in 1974, is a registered charitable social care organization in the United Kingdom that offers information, advice, and support to parents whose children's relationship with them is under threat during or after
divorce
Divorce (also known as dissolution of marriage) is the process of terminating a marriage or marital union. Divorce usually entails the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the ...
or
separation, or who have been
alienated or estranged from their children. FNF also advocates for
shared parenting
Shared parenting, shared residence, joint residence, shared custody, joint physical custody, equal parenting time (EPT) is a child custody arrangement after divorce or separation, in which both parents share the responsibility of raising their ...
, more time for children with their non-resident parent, and stronger court actions when a resident parent defies court orders requiring them to allow their children a relationship with the other parent. The organization's goal is that children of
divorce
Divorce (also known as dissolution of marriage) is the process of terminating a marriage or marital union. Divorce usually entails the canceling or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the ...
or
separation should not lose the love and care of one of their parents.
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Mission
In the United Kingdom, roughly one third of children from separated parents have no contact with their father, and the organization is chiefly concerned with maintaining a child's relationship with both parents during and after family breakdown.
The majority of the work of the charity is in providing relief, assistance, guidance and support to parents and other close family members hoping to stay in touch with their children after divorce or separation. It aims to further the emotional development of children whose parents have separated by encouraging shared parenting arrangements. The organization also seek to study problems associated with children who are deprived of a parent, and to promote an understanding of these problems among family and legal professionals and policy makers.
History and organization
Families Need Fathers was founded in May 1974 by child psychiatrist Alick Elithorn and financial consultant Keith Parkin as an organization to campaign for
equal parenting time after divorce, and for increased
contact
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between a child and its non-custodial parent. The organization became a registered charity in 1979, and was able to hire staff in 1992. As the organization grew in the 1990s, previous employees founded and several new organizations with similar missions, such as Parents Forever Scotland, the Association of Shared Parenting, Dads After Divorce, and
Fathers4Justice
Fathers 4 Justice (or F4J) is a fathers’ rights organisation in the United Kingdom. Founded in 2001, the group aims to gain public and parliamentary support for changes in UK legislation on fathers' rights, mainly using stunts and protest ...
. In 1994, the Cheltenham Group was formed by FNF, ''Dads After Divorce'' and ''Parents Forever Scotland'' in an attempt to form a coalition of parenting organizations.
[Barry Worrall]
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The Cheltenham Group, 2004.
In 2008, FNF ran projects under the umbrella of "Both Parents Matter" and this strapline was added to the charity's logo in 2013. By 2010, the organization had 51 branches across the United Kingdom and a network of 300 volunteers.
[ It has since continued to advocate for shared parenting with the media, the House of Commons and the family justice establishment, while continuing its work as a social care organization.
Jon Davies was the chief executive from 2006 to 2010. The current chair is Paul O'Callaghan.][
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Parental support work
In 2016, Families Need Fathers received around 25,000 calls to its Helpline, around 5,000 visitors to local meetings, and 185,000 unique page views to its website.
Shared parenting advocacy
The organization advocates for shared parenting
Shared parenting, shared residence, joint residence, shared custody, joint physical custody, equal parenting time (EPT) is a child custody arrangement after divorce or separation, in which both parents share the responsibility of raising their ...
, whereby the children live substantial amounts of time with both of their divorced or separated parents. They base their advocacy on scientific studies showing that shared parenting is in the best interest
Best interests or best interests of the child is a child rights principle, which derives from Article 3 of the UN Convention on the Rights of the Child, which says that “in all actions concerning children, whether undertaken by public or private ...
of children, citing research by Malin Bergström
Malin Bergström is a child psychologist and scientist at the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm, Sweden. She is a specialist in studies concerning the effect on children with different child custody arrangements after divorce or separation. Usi ...
, Robert Bauserman, Richard Layard
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Layard was Senior Research ...
, Judith Dunn
Judith Frances Dunn, (born 1939) is a British psychologist and academic, who specialises in social developmental psychology.
Early life and education
Dunn was the daughter of James Pace and Jean Stewart. She studied at New Hall, Cambridge, gra ...
, Rebekah Levine Coley and Bethany L. Medeiros, among others.
Criticism
In 1994, Labour Party MP Glenda Jackson
Glenda May Jackson (born 9 May 1936) is an English actress and former Member of Parliament (MP). She has won the Academy Award for Best Actress twice: for her role as Gudrun Brangwen in the romantic drama ''Women in Love'' (1970); and again for ...
claimed that ''Families Need Fathers'' advised fathers to kidnap their children if they were not allowed access to them, and if that did not work, to murder the mother. In a subsequent letter regarding the organizations draft mission statement, she reiterated the kidnapping assertion and found the mission statement to be an ''attack on women rather than an argument for keeping children and parents in contact''.[ In neither instance did the MP provide a source for the kidnapping claim. In 2007, journalist ]Jenni Murray
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Early life
Murray was born in Barnsley, West Riding of Yorks ...
argued that at its foundation, FNF cast itself outside the frame of respectability as they were said to advocate for the abduction of children whose custody was awarded to the mother. More recently in 2017, Legal Action for Women protested at an FNF conference. They cited Jackson's 1994 kidnapping comment in parliament and protested that the organization has ''consistently attacked women'' and that they deny the existence of domestic violence.[Legal Action for Women]
24 October 2017.
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See also
*Shared parenting
Shared parenting, shared residence, joint residence, shared custody, joint physical custody, equal parenting time (EPT) is a child custody arrangement after divorce or separation, in which both parents share the responsibility of raising their ...
*Parental alienation
Parental alienation is a theorized process through which a child becomes estranged from one parent as the result of the psychological manipulation of another parent. The child's estrangement may manifest itself as fear, disrespect or hostility tow ...
*Shared residency in England
Shared residence, joint residence, or shared parenting refers to the situation where a child of parents who have divorced or marital separation, separated live with each parent at different times, such as every other week. With shared residency, ...
*Fathers' rights movement in the UK
The fathers' rights movement in the United Kingdom consists of a large number of diverse pressure groups, ranging from charities (regulated by the Charity Commission) and self-help groups to civil disobedience activists in the United Kingdom, ...
*English family law
English family law concerns the law relating to family matters in England and Wales. Family law concerns a host of authorities, agencies and groups which participate in or influence the outcome of private disputes or social decisions involving ...
*Family court
Family courts were originally created to be a Court of Equity convened to decide matters and make orders in relation to family law, including custody of children, and could disregard certain legal requirements as long as the petitioner/plaintif ...
References
External links
Families Need Fathers
Homepage
FNFBPM Cymru
Homepage
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1974 establishments in the United Kingdom
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Family and parenting issues groups in the United Kingdom
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