Esther Margareta Vilar (born Esther Margareta Katzen, September 16, 1935) is an Argentine-
German
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writer. She trained and practised as a medical doctor before establishing herself as an author. She is best known for her 1971 book ''
The Manipulated Man
''The Manipulated Man'' (german: Der Dressierte Mann) is a 1971 book by author Esther Vilar, originally written in German and translated to English by Eva Borneman. The main idea behind the book is that women are not oppressed by men but rather ...
'' and its various follow-ups, which argue that, contrary to common
feminist
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and
women's rights
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rhetoric, women in industrialized cultures are not oppressed, but rather exploit a well-established system of manipulating men.
Biography
Vilar's parents were German emigrants. They separated when she was three years old.
She studied medicine at the
University of Buenos Aires
The University of Buenos Aires ( es, Universidad de Buenos Aires, UBA) is a public university, public research university in Buenos Aires, Argentina. Established in 1821, it is the premier institution of higher learning in the country and one o ...
, and in 1960 went to
West Germany
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on scholarship to continue her studies in psychology and sociology. She worked as a doctor in a Bavarian hospital for a year, and has also worked as a translator, saleswoman, assembly-line worker in a thermometer factory, shoe model, and secretary.
Esther married the German author
Klaus Wagn in 1961. The marriage ended in divorce but they had a son, Martin, in 1964. Concerning the divorce she stated, "I didn't break up with the man, just with marriage as an institution."
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Star-Banner, June 14, 1972. Retrieved December 20, 2011.
Work
''The Manipulated Man'' (1971)
One of Vilar's most popular books is titled ''The Manipulated Man'', which she called part of a study on "man's delight in nonfreedom".
In it, she claims that women are not oppressed by men, but rather control men in a relationship that is to their advantage but which most men are not aware of.
Some of the strategies described in her book are:
* Luring men with sex, which she referred to as the "periodic use of a woman's vagina," and other seduction strategies
* Controlling men by the judicious use of praise, sex, and
emotional blackmail
Emotional blackmail and FOG are terms popularized by psychotherapist Susan Forward about controlling people in relationships and the theory that fear, obligation and guilt (FOG) are the transactional dynamics at play between the controller and th ...
once they have been lured
* Masking her real intentions and motives in the guise of romantic love
''The Manipulated Man'' was quite popular at the time of its release, in part due to the considerable press coverage it received.
Vilar appeared on ''
The Tonight Show
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'' on February 21, 1973, to discuss the book. In 1975 she was invited to a televised debate by
WDR with
Alice Schwarzer
Alice Sophie Schwarzer (born 3 December 1942) is a German journalist and prominent feminist. She is founder and publisher of the German feminist journal '' EMMA''. Beginning in France, she became a forerunner of feminist positions against anti- ...
, who became known as the representative of the women's movement at that time. The debate was controversial, with Schwarzer claiming Vilar was: ''"Not only sexist, but fascist''", comparing her book with the Nazi newspaper ''
Der Stürmer
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.''
According to the author, she received death threats over the book:
''So I hadn't imagined broadly enough the isolation I would find myself in after writing this book. Nor had I envisaged the consequences which it would have for subsequent writing and even for my private life - violent threats have not ceased to this date''.[Esther Vilar, ''The Manipulated Man'', revised edition, August 1998]
Other books
Her play ''Speer'' (1998) is a work of fictional biography about the German architect,
Albert Speer
Berthold Konrad Hermann Albert Speer (; ; 19 March 1905 – 1 September 1981) was a German architect who served as the Minister of Armaments and War Production in Nazi Germany during most of World War II. A close ally of Adolf Hitler, he ...
, and has been staged in Berlin and London, directed by and starring
Klaus Maria Brandauer
Klaus Maria Brandauer (; born Klaus Georg Steng; 22 June 1943) is an Austrian actor and director. He is also a professor at the Max Reinhardt Seminar.
Brandauer is known internationally for his roles in ''The Russia House'' (1990), ''Mephisto'' ...
. She has also written many other books and plays, but most have not been translated into English.
Selected works
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* Book collecting original series of 3: ''Der dressierte Mann'' ''
he Manipulated Man Das polygame Geschlecht
he polygamous sex'' ''Das Ende der Dressur'' (The End of the Manipulation; third part never translated into English). dtv Verlag 1998.
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See also
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Antifeminism
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Hypergamy
Hypergamy (colloquially referred to as "marrying up") is a term used in social science for the act or practice of a person marrying a spouse of higher caste or social status than themselves.
The antonym "hypogamy" refers to the inverse: marryin ...
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Men's movement
The men's movement is a social movement that emerged in the 1960s and 1970s, primarily in Western countries, which consists of groups and organizations of men and their allies who focus on gender issues and whose activities range from self-help a ...
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Men Going Their Own Way
Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW ) is an anti-feminist, misogynistic, mostly-online community advocating for men to separate themselves from women and from a society which they believe has been corrupted by feminism. The community is a part o ...
References
External links
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Pinter & Martin English publishers
2021 article titled "Women are spoiled - even today", interviewing Esther(in german)
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1935 births
Living people
Argentine women writers
Argentine Jews
Jewish Argentine writers
Jewish dramatists and playwrights
Jewish women writers
Argentine people of German-Jewish descent
Argentine dramatists and playwrights
20th-century Argentine writers
20th-century dramatists and playwrights
20th-century German writers
20th-century German women writers
Female critics of feminism
Women dramatists and playwrights
Writers from Buenos Aires
University of Buenos Aires alumni
20th-century German physicians