Edging, peaking, or surfing''Extended Massive Orgasm'', Steve and Vera Bodansky, (2000), pp. 91, 92, 94–98, . is a sexual technique whereby an

orgasm Orgasm (from Greek , ; "excitement, swelling") or sexual climax is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle, resulting in rhythmic, involuntary muscular contractions in the pelvic region chara ...

is controlled. It is practiced alone or with a partner and involves the maintenance of a high level of sexual arousal for an extended period without reaching climax. When practiced by males, direct sexual stimulation without the refractory period after orgasm is observed. When the controlled orgasm is achieved, the physical sensations are greater as compared to conventional orgasm. Orgasm control is referenced as "slow masturbation" in

Alex Comfort Alexander Comfort (10 February 1920 – 26 March 2000) was a British scientist and physician known best for his nonfiction sex manual, ''The Joy of Sex'' (1972). He was an author of both fiction and nonfiction, as well as a gerontologist ...

's ''The New Joy of Sex'' (1993) and "extended massive orgasm" in Vera and Steve Bodansky's 2000 book of the same name. It is similar to the

Venus Butterfly The Venus Butterfly is a term used for various sexual techniques, one of which was the subject of the 1988 book ''The One Hour Orgasm.'' It was first publicly mentioned in a 1986 episode of the American television drama '' L.A. Law,'' although a ...

technique used in the volume ''The One Hour Orgasm'' (1988) by Leah and Bob Schwartz. Detailed practices including exercises can be found in several books, such as Mantak Chia's ''The Multi-Orgasmic Man''. Orgasm control involves either

sex partner Sexual partners are people who engage in sexual activity together. The sexual partners may be in a committed relationship, either on an exclusive basis or not, or engage in the sexual activity on a casual basis. They may be on intimate terms ...

being in control of the other partner's orgasm, or a person delaying their own orgasm during

sexual activity Human sexual activity, human sexual practice or human sexual behaviour is the manner in which humans experience and express their sexuality. People engage in a variety of sexual acts, ranging from activities done alone (e.g., masturbation) ...

with a partner or by masturbation. Any method of

sexual stimulation Sexual stimulation is any stimulus (including bodily contact) that leads to, enhances and maintains sexual arousal, and may lead to orgasm. Although sexual arousal may arise without physical stimulation, achieving orgasm usually requires physica ...

can be used to experience controlled orgasm.

In partnered sex

During intercourse or other forms of sexual stimulation with a partner, one person stimulates the other(s) and reduces the level of stimulation when approaching orgasm.

Erotic sexual denial Erotic sexual denial is the practice of refraining from sexual experiences in order to increase erotic arousal and/or tension. The prohibited experience can be narrowly or broadly defined and banned for a specific or indeterminate length of ti ...

occurs when the partner who is in control of the other partner's orgasm prolongs the orgasm to allow for an increased level of sexual tension. When a partner eventually provides enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm, it may be stronger than usual due to increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation. An example of the use of orgasm control in partnered sex can be seen in

BDSM BDSM is a variety of often erotic practices or roleplaying involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism, and other related interpersonal dynamics. Given the wide range of practices, some of which may be engaged ...

; if the partner whose orgasm is being controlled (sometimes referred to as the

submissive Deference (also called submission or passivity) is the condition of submitting to the espoused, legitimate influence of one's superior or superiors. Deference implies a yielding or submitting to the judgment of a recognized superior, out of re ...

partner) is tied up, it may better control the orgasm (the activity is sometimes called tie and tease; if orgasm is denied, it is then known as tease and denial).

In masturbation

When practicing alone in masturbation, orgasm control can heighten sexual pleasure. Another reason for practicing orgasm control is to extend the amount of time it takes to orgasm. For a female, the practitioner can enjoy direct sexual stimulation for longer periods of time, as well as increasing frequency and intensity. For a man, the speed of masturbation may vary to navigate right to the edge of ejaculation. With orgasm control, a male can experience a more intense orgasm, as well as a larger volume of semen expelled during his ejaculation. One technique, commonly referred to as 'edging', involves masturbating up until the moment before reaching the plateau phase just before orgasm occurs, and then stopping suddenly before experiencing a climax. Another technique, commonly referred to as 'surfing', involves reaching the plateau phase and slowing down the stimulation to maintain a heightened level of sensation for an extended time. Repeating either of these techniques many times during a single masturbation session may result in a stronger, more intense orgasm. Orgasm control is more often possible with masturbation. This is because masturbation allows for individual control and has no reliance on a sexual partner to achieve orgasm. Masturbation can be seen as the starting point in the technique of orgasm control. Self-stimulation can help people learn about the limits of their body and the techniques that may help them in controlling their orgasms. Recent research suggests masturbation may decrease the incidence of prostate cancer. As it has been described by Steve Bodansky and Vera Bodansky in ''Extended Massive Orgasm: How You Can Give and Receive Intense Sexual Pleasure'', masturbation practiced with the aim of orgasm control should be carried on with the purpose of endured sexual gratification and not to relieve tension, as 'simple' masturbation does. In 2009, Masanobu Sato masturbated for 9 hours and 58 minutes at the 9th annual World Masturbate-a-thon.

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In masturbation

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