David Marquette Kopay (born June 28, 1942) is a former
American football
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running back
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in the
National Football League
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who in 1975 became one of the first
professional athlete
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s to
come out
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as
gay
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.
Life
Kopay attended
Notre Dame High School in
Sherman Oaks
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,
California
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. He entered the
University of Washington
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in 1961. He was on the West roster as a halfback at the
All-America
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East vs. West Football Game in 1964. Kopay was signed by the
San Francisco 49ers
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, and played professional football from 1964 to 1972. After he retired from the NFL, he was considered a top contender for coaching positions, but he believes he was snubbed by professional and college teams because of his sexual orientation.
Kopay went to work as a salesman/purchaser in his uncle's floorcovering business in
Hollywood
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. He is also a board member of the
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.
Kopay's 1977 biography, ''
The David Kopay Story
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'', written with
Perry Deane Young
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, became a best-seller. In 1986, Kopay, without naming him, revealed his brief affair with
Jerry Smith, a football player who played for the
Washington Redskins
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from 1965–1977 and who died of
AIDS
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without ever having publicly come out of the closet.
Social impact
Since Kopay, six additional former NFL players have come out as gay,
Roy Simmons in 1992,
Esera Tuaolo
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Football career
He played college football at Oreg ...
in 2002,
Wade Davis in 2012,
Kwame Harris
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in 2013,
Ryan O'Callaghan
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in 2017, and
Colton Underwood
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in 2021. To date, only one ''current'' NFL player,
Carl Nassib
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, has come out publicly as gay (in 2021).
Kopay has been credited with inspiring these athletes to be more open about their sexual orientation. In May 1977, Kopay was on the cover of ''GPU (Gay People’s Union) News'' of Milwaukee.
Kopay appears as himself in a small but pivotal role in the film ''
Tru Loved
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Plot
Sixteen-year-old Tru has been raised in San Francisco by two lesbian mothers an ...
'' (2008). His scene features young actor
Matthew Thompson and
Alexandra Paul
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.
Kopay became a Gay Games Ambassador for the Federation of
Gay Games
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. He went to Gay Games VII in Chicago in July 2006 and was a featured announcer in the opening ceremonies.
Kopay announced in September 2007 that he will leave $1 million as an endowment to the University of Washington Q Center.
See also
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Homosexuality in American football
There has been only one player who has publicly come out as gay or bisexual while being an active player in the National Football League (NFL): Carl Nassib, who revealed himself as gay on June 21, 2021. He later became the first openly gay player ...
References
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Player Who Came Out in 70s Scores Film Role""Dave Kopay, Pioneer Gay Athlete, Joins Cast of Film TRU LOVED"
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1942 births
Living people
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