A boyfriend is a man who is a
friend
Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an "acquaintance" or an "association", such as a classmate, neighbor, coworker, or colleague.
In some cultures, the concept of ...
or
acquaintance
The concept of interpersonal relationship involves social associations, connections, or affiliations between two or more people. Interpersonal relationships vary in their degree of intimacy or self-disclosure, but also in their duration, in t ...
to the speaker, often specifying a regular male companion with whom a person is
romantically
''Romantically'' is an album by American pop singer Johnny Mathis that was released on November 18, 1963, by Columbia Records and was also the final original studio album recorded by Mathis for the label prior to his moving to Mercury Records. ...
or
sexually involved.
A boyfriend can also be called an admirer, beau, suitor and sweetheart. The analogous term for women is "
girlfriend
A girlfriend is a female friend, acquaintance or partner, usually a female companion with whom one is platonically, romantically, or sexually involved.
In a romantic context, this normally signifies a committed relationship where the indi ...
".
Scope
Partners in committed non-marital relationships are also sometimes described as a ''
significant other
The term significant other (SO) has different uses in psychology and in colloquial language. Colloquially, "significant other" is used as a gender-neutral term for a person's partner in an intimate relationship without disclosing or presuming ...
'' or ''partner'', especially if the individuals are cohabiting.
A 2005 study of 115 people ages 21 to 35 who were either living with or had lived with a romantic partner notes that the lack of proper terms often leads to awkward situations, such as someone upset over not being introduced in social situations to avoid the question.
Word history
The word ''dating'' entered the American language during the
Roaring Twenties
The Roaring Twenties, sometimes stylized as Roaring '20s, refers to the 1920s decade in music and fashion, as it happened in Western society and Western culture. It was a period of economic prosperity with a distinctive cultural edge in the U ...
. Prior to that, courtship was a matter of family and community interest. Starting around the time of the
American Civil War
The American Civil War (April 12, 1861 – May 26, 1865; also known by other names) was a civil war in the United States. It was fought between the Union ("the North") and the Confederacy ("the South"), the latter formed by states th ...
, courtship became a private matter for couples.
In the early to mid 19th century in the US, women were often visited by "gentleman callers", single men who would arrive at the home of a young woman with the hopes of beginning a
courtship
Courtship is the period wherein some couples get to know each other prior to a possible marriage. Courtship traditionally may begin after a betrothal and may conclude with the celebration of marriage. A courtship may be an informal and private m ...
. The era of the gentleman caller ended in the early 20th century and the modern idea of dating developed.
In literature, the term is discussed in July 1988 in
Neil Bartlett's, ''Who Was That Man? A Present for Mr Oscar Wilde.'' On pages 108–110, Bartlett quotes from an issue of ''
The Artist and Journal of Home Culture
''The Artist and Journal of Home Culture'', also ''The Artist'', was a monthly art and design journal published in London by Archibald Constable & Co. from 1880 to 1902. From 1881 to 1894 the full title was ''The Artist and Journal of Home Cultur ...
'', which refers to
Alectryon as "a boyfriend of
Mars
Mars is the fourth planet from the Sun and the second-smallest planet in the Solar System, only being larger than Mercury (planet), Mercury. In the English language, Mars is named for the Mars (mythology), Roman god of war. Mars is a terr ...
".
Synonyms
*An older man may be referred to as a ''sugar daddy'', a well-to-do man who financially supports or lavishly spends on a mistress, girlfriend, or boyfriend.
*In popular culture, slang, internet chat, and cellphone texting, the truncated
acronym
An acronym is a word or name formed from the initial components of a longer name or phrase. Acronyms are usually formed from the initial letters of words, as in ''NATO'' (''North Atlantic Treaty Organization''), but sometimes use syllables, as ...
''bf'' is also used.
*''Leman'', an archaic word for "sweetheart, paramour," from Medieval British ''leofman'' (c.1205), from Old English ''leof'' (cognate of Dutch ''lief'', German ''lieb'') "dear" + ''man'' "human being, person" was originally applied to either gender, but usually means mistress.
* The term ''young man'' was at some periods used with a similar connotation. For example, in the 1945 film "
My Name Is Julia Ross
''My Name Is Julia Ross'' is a 1945 American gothic film noir directed by Joseph H. Lewis, and starring Nina Foch, Dame May Whitty, and George Macready. Its plot follows a young woman in England who is hired as a live-in secretary for an ailing ...
" the female protagonist, seeking a secretarial job, is asked if she has "a young man"
– where in later films a similar question would have referred to "a boyfriend".
See also
*
Domestic partnership
A domestic partnership is a legal relationship, usually between couples, who live together and share a common domestic life, but are not married (to each other or to anyone else). People in domestic partnerships receive benefits that guarantee r ...
References
External links
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