Arabic wedding

Arabic weddings (, , or ) are ceremonies of matrimony which contain Arab influences or Arabic culture.

Traditional Arabic weddings are intended to be very similar to modern-day Bedouin and rural weddings. What is sometimes called a "Bedouin" wedding is a traditional Arab Islamic wedding without any foreign influence. Ceremonies may in some cases be unique from one region to another, even within the same country.

The marriage process usually starts with meetings between the couple's families, and ends with the consummation of the betrothed (''leilat al-dokhla''). For a wedding to be considered Islamic, the bride and groom must both consent, and the groom must be welcomed into the bride's house; although only in the presence of her parents, to maintain propriety on both sides.

The most common events of the Muslim marriage are variations of the following: marriage proposal, engagement, henna, ''nikah'', registration, reception, ''walima'', and honeymoon. The only Islamic requirement is to hold the ''nikah'' and ''walima''. Other events are cultural additions. Civil registration is usually a legal requirement.Muslim Weddings
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Arranged marriages

The timeless tradition of marriages being arranged by the families of bride and groom prevails in the Arab world, as it does in the Indian subcontinent and in most of East Asia. The traditions of these societies forbid premarital sex and also socializing between men and women before marriage. In these societies, when a young woman is considered old enough to be married, her family will look around to identify several potential families of similar social background where she would find happiness in marriage, and where she would become an integral part of her new family without much adjustment problem. Likewise, when a young man is considered old enough to be married, her family will look around to identify several potential brides from good families with good values.

While this is the case in most other societies named above, there is a further factor which adds to the comfort and assurance of the couple in the Arab nations of West Asia and North Africa: the tradition of consanguineous marriage. Indeed, in these countries, at least one-sixth of all marriages are consanguineous. In Saudi Arabia, majority (65%+) of all marriages are endogamous and consanguineous arranged marriages. More than 40% of all marriages are endogamous and consanguineous in Iraq, Jordan, Syria, Yemen, Kuwait, UAE, Oman, Sudan, Libya and Mauritania; and over 1 in 5 marriages in Egypt and Algeria. Among these Arab people, arranged marriages include endogamous and non-consanguineous marriages, and therefore exceed the above observed rates of endogamous and consanguineous marriages. Arab Christians, such as Coptic Christians in Egypt,Somervill, Barbara (2007). Teens in Egypt. Capstone; ; page 41-43, 57 have similar patterns of marriage. Marriage was a central feature of traditional Aboriginal societies. Freedom of marriage was restricted to ensure children were produced according to the correct family groups and affiliations and avoid marriages with certain close relatives or marriages with any one outside the group. Nevertheless, opinions vary on whether the phenomenon should be seen as exclusively based on Islamic practices as a 1992 study among Arabs in Jordan did not show significant differences between Christian Arabs or Muslim Arabs when comparing the occurrence of consanguinity.

Whereas looks are considered as a factor, much more importance is given to traditional virtues like modesty, respectable behavior, calm temperament, homeliness and simplicity. Respectable family and chastity are non-negotiable basics, without which no discussion even starts. Traditionally, the process of investigation takes into consideration the girls' physical beauty, her behavior, her cleanliness, her education and finally her qualities as a housewife. In carrying out this traditional investigation parents also take the behavior of the prospective bride's family into account.

The first meeting usually takes place between the bride, groom, and their respective mothers. They meet, usually in a public place or in the bride's house, and get to know each other. The bride, groom, and their chaperones will typically sit separately, but within sight of each other, in order to get to know each other. Nowadays, the man might suggest to his family who he would like them to consider, and it may be that the man and the woman already know each other. It is also nowadays common in urban families for a bride and the groom to agree to marry before the groom approaches the bride's family for their permission.

Tulba

''Tulba'' or Tolbe () is basically a formal request of hand. The event is more private, limited to the relatives of the bride and groom. This occurs after both families have agreed to the couple's decision to marry. In "Tulpa", the groom, along with his family members, asks the bride, with her family for her part, to her hand in marriage. Families then formally recognize that the couple will be married.

Engagement

Engagements () '' in Saudi as well as in earlier Arabic and Islamic jurisprudence fiqh. However, it is called '' in Egypt and the Levant) in the Arab world are usually much like a simpler wedding party or a dinner for the families, the bride wears any dress she pleases and there is no '' zaffah'' procession. Usually, the bride and groom dress in matching colors. They exchange rings, putting the rings on each other's right-hand ring finger they are very common

Radwa

This event usually occurs one or two days before the wedding day. It is a small gathering of close male relatives on both sides of the bride and groom, usually in the home of the bride's family. In this exchange, the men on the groom's side make sure that the bride's family is satisfied with the party. Male family members on the groom side also make sure to resolve any last minute issues before the wedding. After all, the eldest man on the side of the groom congratulates all the male relatives on both sides.

Henna night (Ghomrah)

In Old Palestine, the henna night was a night used to prepare all the necessary wedding decorations and last-minute arrangements. It was also a chance for the families to celebrate together before the wedding. The groom's family would ''sahij'' or dance through the streets of the village until reaching the house of the bride. Once there, the family would mix henna, which would then be used to decorate the bride and groom’s hands (with the groom's being merely the initials of his bride and himself), and then offer the bride her mahr (a Muslim woman's condition for accepting a man into marriage, usually paid in gold as it does not decline in value like other wealth). The families would then dance and sing traditional Palestinian music.

In modern times, particularly those not living in Palestine, the henna night remains traditional in customs, but is very similar to a bachelorette party; the bride's female friends and relatives join her in celebrating, which includes food, drinks, and a lot of dancing. A women's group plays Arabic music, sometimes Islamic music, while everyone dances. A woman draws henna or mehndi, a temporary form of skin decoration using henna, on the bride's and guests' skin — usually the palms and feet, where the henna color will be darkest because the skin contains higher levels of keratin there, which binds temporarily to lawsone, the colorant of henna.

The men will also have a party, in which the groom's family and friends will dance to traditional Palestinian music. In some village customs, the groom's face is shaven by a close family member or friend in preparation for his wedding. The tradition of giving the bride her gold is also still used. The groom will enter where the bride is, they will both get their henna done, and the groom will then offer the bride her mahr. Thus, the wedding being merely dancing and celebration.

An important element of the henna night in both traditional and non-traditional henna parties, is the dress adorned by the Palestinian women and the groom. The women dress in traditional (usually hand embroidered) gowns, known as Palestinian ithyab. The brides thobe would be extravagant and exquisitely embroidered. The groom will wear the usual traditional Arab men's thobe and hata (head covering).

The henna wedding tradition has remained popular with Jewish descendants of predominantly Muslim countries.

Sahrah

In some areas (e. g. Palestine) also the male friends and relatives celebrate an evening party (''sahra'' in Arabic ) in the garden or on the street in front of the groom's house. Music and dance groups perform and the men dance with the groom. Women are not allowed and may view the program via video projection inside the house or the closed off garden. In strict Islamic families this is the only way to allow males from outside the family to attend the wedding.

Wedding reception/party

Weddings usually include a '' zaffa'', a procession that loudly announces the couple's wedding. The ''zaffa'' differs from region to region. In Egypt, for example, the Dumiyati ''zaffa'' is popular in the north. In the Levant, the traditional ''dabkeh'' is popular. Other versions of the ''zaffa'' can be found in North Africa and the Arabian peninsula as well as the '' khaliji''; the ''zaffa'' even reached Malaysia with the first Arab traders, called the Zapin.

Urban weddings

After the ''zaffa'' / ''zefaf'', the bride and the groom (this is mostly in Egypt) sit on a dais, or ''kosha'' (), which usually consists of two comfortable seats in front of the guests, from which the bride and groom reign as though king and queen. As soon as the bride and groom are seated in the ''kosha'', a ''sharbat'' drink is passed to the guests, and all drink to their health.

The bride and groom then switch rings from their right hand to the left index. With this ritual, the festivities begin. The bride and groom have the first dance, after which the other wedding guests join in. Usually a belly dancer or a singer entertains the guests, but more luxurious weddings will have more than one entertainer. Guests will dance and sing with the newlywed couple, and the groom will sometimes be tossed in the air by friends. In modern weddings, after the formal entertainment, a disc jockey will extend the festivities.

Next comes the cutting of the cake. As is done elsewhere in the world, the bride and groom cut the cake, which is several layers high. The bride then tosses her bouquet behind her back to other hopeful women. By tradition, whoever catches the bouquet is seen as lucky, because she is foretold to be the next to marry. Next, the couple opens the buffet for the guests, which is usually a wide variety of salads, meats, stews, sweets, fruits, and other Arab cuisine dishes. Food is considered one of the factors that reflect the wealth of the families of the bride and groom.
After the guests have eaten, many of the guests, particularly those who are not close family or friends of the couple will leave after congratulating the couple. In some weddings, there may be more entertainment including a DJ, dancing and sometimes a singer or a band which continue until very late in the night. The bride and groom then usually receive a complimentary stay of a night or two at the hotel where the wedding was held.

In strict Muslim families, men may not dance with women or even watch women in unmodest dresses. So only the female guests and children enter the hall together with the wedding couple. Also photographers and other personnel must be women, and the DJ, if he is male, has to operate behind a closed door. Men wait outside in a separate room or garden. At the end of the party women cover their shoulders and male family members may enter the hall. Family by family visit the couple to offer congratulations and money presents. At the end they may dance together.

Celebratory gunfire is considered as one of many practices during Arab weddings. However, these practices are often criticized since they sometimes led to fatal casualties. For instance, an Iraqi man from Hawija, Iraq lost control of his weapon and ended up shooting and killing his own son at his wedding in June 2020.

Rural weddings

Modern urban weddings are influenced by Western traditions—for example, the cutting of the cake and tossing of the bouquet. This is not the case with rural areas or for example most parts of Saudi Arabia where they still do the original traditional Arab Islamic wedding style. In rural areas of countries like Egypt, after the ''zaffa'', the wedding ceremony will usually take place in a big clearing, where a huge Arabic tent called a ''sewan'' () has been set up. The entertainment includes a belly dancer or singer, sometimes both. Drinks are passed to guests, and food is served on huge plates. The customary food is ''fattah'', pieces of lamb meat embedded in rice and bread dipped in stew. The bride and groom will leave the wedding early, but the guests continue the festivities.

Islamic practices

Reading of the Fatiha

In Egypt and Parts of Palestine and Jordan, the bride's family hosts a reception in their home, where the groom formally asks for the bride's hand in marriage from her father or the eldest man in the family. After the father agrees, the families read the Fatiha (the first ''sura'' in the Quran) and serve '' sharbat'', a sweet cordial prepared from flowers or fruit (usually in Egypt), or Arabic coffee (usually in the Levant).

Marriage contract

The marriage contract, called ''Aqd Nikah'', ''Aqd Qiran'', ''Aqd Zawaj'', ''Katb el-Kitab'', is the focus of the official marriage ceremony. It starts with a ''sheikh'' or ''imam'' giving a short speech about how the Prophet honored his wives, how to honor women, and how women should treat their husbands and honor them. Then the ''imam'' tells the groom to heed the speech that was just given, and the father (or eldest male of the bride's family) accepts the proposal. The ceremony resembles the reading of the Fatiha, but is also when the legal documents are filled out and then filed. Two witnesses, usually the eldest men in each family, sign their names to the marriage contract, and the couple is now officially married.

In the Levant, this event is usually held in the house of the either the bride or the groom's family, or sometimes in the wedding hall itself, in a mosque, or in court if the couple decide to do so.

Christian practices

The large minority of Arab Christians, who mainly live in the Levant region and in Egypt, belong mainly to Catholic and Orthodox Christian Churches and they use ancient Christian symbolic traditions in their weddings.

References

External links

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