Alvilde Lees-Milne (''née'' Bridges; 13 August 1909 – 1994) was a British

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and

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expert.

Early life

Alvilde was born on 13 August 1909 in

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. She was the only child of the Lt.-Gen. Sir (George) Tom Molesworth Bridges, the

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from 1922 to 1927, by his wife Janet Florence Menzies, and was the great-niece of

Robert Bridges Robert Seymour Bridges (23 October 1844 – 21 April 1930) was an English poet who was Poet Laureate from 1913 to 1930. A doctor by training, he achieved literary fame only late in life. His poems reflect a deep Christian faith, and he is ...

, the one-time

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Personal life

On 9 January 1933, Alvilde married Hon. Anthony Freskin Charles Hamby Chaplin, who would in 1949 become the 3rd

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. They had one daughter, Oenone Clarissa Chaplin (b. 1934), who married Michael Charles Deane Luke (b. 1925), son of Sir Harry Charles Luke

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, of Hollingbourne Manor, in 1958. While married to Lord Chaplin, she met

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, who became her second husband, during

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while she was engaged in an affair with the arts patron Princess Winnaretta de Polignac. By 1949 they were in love, but from the outset the relationship was not without complications. At one point the Chaplins, Lees-Milne, and Anthony Chaplin's girlfriend Hon. Rosemary Lyttelton all lived in the same house. Lord and Lady Chaplin divorced in 1950, whereupon the viscount married Rosemary Lyttleton (by whom he later had two daughters). She and Lees-Milne were candid with each other about their true sexual nature, and they did not generally hide their affairs from one another. During the 1930s James Lees-Milne had been the lover of

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, husband of the writer

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who was herself noted for her high-profile lesbian affairs. Both Harold and Vita acted as witnesses at the Lees-Milnes' wedding (also present was James' former lover the composer

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and Berkeley's wife Freda). Vita Sackville-West's former lover

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had been the long-term lover of Princess de Polignac, and in turn in the 1950s Sackville-West became involved in a love affair with Alvilde Lees-Milne (who tried to conceal the fact from her husband). In later written accounts James Lees-Milne said that he and his wife enjoyed an active sexual relationship prior to their marriage, but less so afterwards. In 1955, Alvilde embarked on the affair with Sackville-West; they were semi-discreet but the affair was well known within their social circle. When in the late 1950s Lees-Milne began a - mostly platonic - affair with a younger man the marriage became stormy, predominantly as a result of Alvilde's jealousy (she was prone to spying on him, even to the extent of steaming open his letters and listening to his telephone conversations). By the late 1960s, Alvilde and Lees-Milne had reached a more settled point in their marriage. They became a more devoted couple, living together but still largely pursuing separate lives. By the 1970s, the Lees-Milnes were devoted to one another, until at the age of 70 James conceived a romantic (but platonic) relationship with a man of 25; this caused considerable strain to their marriage, and led to a permanent rift between Alvilde and

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. Alvilde became seriously ill in 1992, and Lees-Milne devoted the next two years of his life to caring for her. She died suddenly on 18 March 1994, James Lees-Milne having found her collapsed on the pathway of their Badminton home. Her death left him deeply depressed.

Residences

In 1961 Alvilde Lees-Milne purchased Alderley Grange, near the western edge of

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. The marriage survived, principally because they spent a good deal of time apart. Alvilde made a garden at Alderley which would later draw widespread admiration; she subsequently became a much sought-after garden designer, her clients including the Queen of Jordan,

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, and

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at his ''manoir'' in France. She published a variety of best-selling books on gardening and, latterly, interiors. In 1974, Alvilde decided that Alderley Grange was too much for them. She sold the property; the couple moved to a flat in

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. It was soon realised that the place was too cramped. They moved to the 17th-century Essex House, on the

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estate of the Duke of Beaufort, in 1975; they rented the property at the considerate suggestion of their close friend

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, the duke's nephew and heir.

References

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James Lees-Milne and Alvilde Chaplin
{{DEFAULTSORT:Lees-Milne, Alvilde 1909 births 1994 deaths Bisexual women British gardeners

Chaplin Chaplin may refer to: People * Charlie Chaplin (1889–1977), English comedy film actor and director * Chaplin (name), other people named Chaplin Films * '' Unknown Chaplin'' (1983) * ''Chaplin'' (film) (1992) * ''Chaplin'' (2011 film), Ben ...

LGBT people from England People from Alderley, Gloucestershire People from Westminster 20th-century LGBT people